What is sexy?

April 18th, 2006

I had lunch with my friend Crazy Joe (hey, he asked for that pseudonym!) over the weekend.

At some point, I told CJ all about someone I just met. He’s cute, funny, intelligent, and (for once) my own age. Did I mention tall? I LOVE that he’s all of those things and taller than me when I wore high heels.

Nothing has happened, but it could. It’s a situation full of possibilities — all of which I’d like to explore. All of which would be easier if I wasn’t an insecure freak!

CJ agrees, “The worst thing someone could say about you is your lack of confidence.” (I’m glad that’s the worst he thinks of me!)

Men love a confident woman, he said. “Maggie is a great example of that.”

Maggie is an actress we know out in Riverside, CA. She’s a funny, vivacious woman with a magnetic personality. She’s often cast as a wicked witch or an evil step-sister in kid theatrical productions, but don’t let that fool you: she does just fine in the romance department.

“Oh my gawd, you’re right! She’s had a lot of boyfriends. Some of them were really hot!”

When the movie “Swingers,” came out, I kept thinking her then fiance could have played the “Trent Walker” role better than Vince Vaughn. He was also hotter than Vince Vaughn — I kid you not.

“By all rites, she should be some mousy librarian out in the middle of nowhere, but she’s not. I know you’re not going to believe me, but even when someone looks like she does, and she’s confident, men find that woman — even Maggie — sexy.”

“Wow,” I said, partly stunned that CJ sees Maggie as sexy. “I know she has an amazing personality, but, jeez…” I keep wondering how far personality can take you when you’re naked and close to someone else. Then I remembered everyone I’ve been close to…”Yeah, I guess that sounds about right!”

Here’s my favorite thing CJ said: “Imagine what she could do if she looked like you!”

Imagine indeed!
Flo