Gotta give it up?
Three weeks ago, I was standing in the kitchen with my boss, Mr. B., his girlfriend, Jane, and her friend of a dozen years, Dora.
Dora was their houseguest that week. She was at the beginnings of a nasty break-up and needed a place to crash for a few days. (Who hasn’t been there?)
I remember meeting her and her boyfriend many months earlier, thinking what a striking couple they were. Were being the key word now.
Mr. B’s girlfriend/my friend, Jane, suggested that Dora talk to me about the little blog I keep titled www.idiotexhusband.com. I was about to mention I also registered the domain name www.idiotexboyfriend.com when Mr. B looked up from the salmon he was burning in the broiler, “Flo, you need to give up that website.”
Though my boss was a lawyer from Brooklyn turned music manager (think American music legends, people) and never shied away from sharing his feelings, that statement shocked me. I looked around the room to see if anyone else heard it, too.
“First of all, you’ve got better things to do with your time…”
I interrupted him, “Uh, no I don’t. Not really!” That got a big laugh from Jane.
“Oh, sure you do,” he said. “Second, it’s a rotten thing to do to your husband after he helped you.” He pointed his spatula at me, “He paid your medical bills when you were sick.”
I stopped giggling to agree with him. “Yes, he did. That was very kind of him. He didn’t have to do that.”
He turned back to the broiler, “What you’re doing to him is wrong.”
“In fairness, I’m not as pissed at him as I used to be. I had some major ammunition from a recent fight we had last month and I didn’t even use it!” That got a bigger laugh from everyone but Mr. B.
While I know he’s right — and have struggled with this very subject for months now — I’m not fully ready to give up this blog. This is my one outlet for self-expression (too bad the url justexpressingmyself.com is already take!). Right now, I need this site.
Instead of dropping IXH altogether, it might be better to refocus my goals. I’m thinking less angry stories about my soon to be ex-husband, Endicott, and more stories documenting my journey through divorce (which was one of my original goals for IXH when I started it fourteen months ago). If you act now, I’ll pepper in the occassional bits of sex, drugs, and rock and roll…Uh, no I won’t. It seemed like a cool thing to write ’til I remembered we’re talking about me, not Mr. B…but if you end up at his house in the Hills at some late night party, I bet he’d be more than happy to share them with you.
If you have any suggestions for new features, feel free to click on the contact tab at the top of the screen and let me know. While I still haven’t gotten back to several readers who left comments last month, I will definitely address them, and anyone else who writes me, in the next couple of days.
Adios,
Flo
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